Special tips for men about russian women What do russian women feel is hard to find in men? To a russian woman a relationship is a way to fulfillment and personal growth -- hers and yours. Men usually find more of color and excitement in it. Women know how much they can light up a man's life. They give little thought to how much men want the sweet energy they offer. Their concern is more with the stability of the relation. She is very concerned with holding on to what she needs from you. Your male ways put a sense of grounding in her life. This is not something she can give herself enough of alone. She wants to feel secure about you being there. Your lively interest in her brings her a welcome sense of reassurance about you, almost like a hug that keeps on going. A woman who feels that she can count on the fellow in her life will want to bless him with many rewards. They know instinctively how to please and will give in abundance to the man they feel is trustworthy. She needs to trust that you will find more beauty in her tomorrow than today. And she wants to know you will be there for her with support and tender concern. How do I flirt to hold a russian woman's interest? Many things are in your favor from the outset. She assumes that you are at an advantage because you are a man. Her view is that if you don't favor her then you will simply move on and find someone else. She wants your strength and affection in her life. The key to your advantage is in knowing what kind of a delivery she is hoping you will give her. Market your ways with a sporting attitude. Some lightheartedness will make both of you more comfortable. She will respect how you manage the challenge and you will win her first interest. Give her large doses of your sweet interest. Women have a very deep wish for men who are fascinated by their personalities. Relate to her as if there is no other female anywhere and she will be hypnotized by your interest. She will also think you are very wise and perceptive. Women assume that you find them sexually attractive. They want to know how they make you feel. T hey take your joy in their personal makeup as a sign of healthy interest in them. They will invite you in f or more when they feel that you are really interested in what their emotional makeup can do to you. Women see sex more as a reward for your good interest in them than as something they want for themselves. And she will move heaven and earth for the man whom she knows to be interested enough in her as a person. What can I do to keep my last relation from interfering my next one? Take a break to deal with your feeling of hurt or anger. Wait for the negative feelings to give way to a leisurely openness to someone new. Your next relation can prosper by what you can learn about yourself in the time after your last one. The next woman in your life will want to see the finer side of you. Go to work on releasing your last relation to the past. Recall what was good and satisfying about it. Treat the dark side of it as something that you are parting with and look upon it without blaming yourself or her. The next woman will sense your feelings toward your last lover. She will be glad to see that you cherish what was good about it and she will admire you for releasing your negative feelings. Your next lover will become anxious that she is not getting enough of you if she feels that you are still in the midst of strong negative feelings from the past. When she sees that the majority of your energy is going toward her, she will be eager to draw you on with her sweetness and emotional richness. I have seen men who seem irresistible to russian women. How do they do that? There are two kinds of men who seem to do far better with women than most others. Actors, athletes and others familiar as media stars are one kind. They offer glamorous attraction to lofty and dreamed of parts of life that others have little or no access to. They can satisfy a woman's need for reverie and romance. This has very little to do with women want from men as men. The playing field levels when it comes to what women want in a relation. The really irresistible fellow has certain personality traits that invite women on for more. A man who is in touch with his own make up unwittingly tells a woman that he can be in touch with hers. This is a very exciting idea to a woman because the majority of what she wants is your eyes on her experience of herself. A splash of charm helps. Think of charm as a higher form of authenticity or self acceptance. Charm goes out with the expression of certain colorful parts of yourself. This is a natural thing for a man who lives at ease with his emotions. There is no need to study charm because it comes by itself as you let more of yourself in. So what about that seductive guy who gets all the gals? If he wants a relation or anything else from a woman that lasts longer than a brief encounter then he is on the level part of the playing field. Sexual magnetism is a wonderful seasoning for what women want first and foremost: your interest in them and how they are made. What do women really want from men? Almost every woman wants you to see her as beautiful. She sees her beauty as just beginning in the way she looks and is formed. She feels that the larger part of her beauty is in her emotional makeup and personalty. A woman sees herself more in psychic terms than a man. They want your eyes to enjoy how they look and they want much more that your eyes will move on to the larger attractions they feel within. Women base their trust in you on how much and how well your attention moves from how she looks to what she is like as a person. They see their inner world as the most beautiful and enduring thing about themselves. The man who has a sense for her emotional life will win much favor in her eyes and quickly. She sees her greatest gift to you in the way her person can enrich and uplift your life. A woman wants love making to enter after she is confident that you have some sense of what it means to her feelings. Her wish for you to be one with her inner life remains the most important thing to her. In her eyes, sex and love making are a wonderful expression of the trust she has in you. In fact, she will go on seeing your love making as her gift to you for being a trustworthy person who is in touch with her. Women know what their emotional energy can do to men. They know what it means to be the main event in a man's life. That is why it is so important to them that you appreciate how they experience themselves. The more you connect with what you do to her feelings, the more she will light up your life with her winning ways. There are things in men that women wish they could possess. They need more than just your appreciation of what they are like and how they look. They wish to have a man's sense of strong purpose and focus in their lives. They need this because their emotions can easily take off and make them feel off center or without balance. They long for how your support makes them feel more together. Women want to fill your life with themselves and their color. And they want to have your masculine way firmly in their lives. The power of your male way gives her a feeling of completeness that she cannot have by herself alone. How can I know if a female is a player? Every female -- and male -- has stages of life where wanting little more than play is what is best for her at that time. Adolescence is such a time for everyone and often, in later life, the time after the end of a committed or deep relationship creates the same need. Sometimes a spurt of fresh growth in the personality can also trigger the same need to learn about oneself by experimenting. At such times playing is a healthy means of getting to a next level when it comes to learning more about how to enjoy the other gender and about oneself. This kind of behavior is wholesome and is neither manipulative nor hurtful to others. When it does not occur in adolescence it is usually a fun and exciting way for a male to grow or heal, and the same is true of females. In fact, a female who is in such a phase of life is very likely to seek a partner in the few months or more that it takes to work through her play phase. This female is not the player that many males wants to avoid. The player that concerns many males is the female who puts them at risk of being an object of sport or a show of power, not to mention the risk of being her plaything. The female player does this chronically and usually with little regard for who gets injured or how much. Since she is usually eager and willing about sex she will rationalize her lack of regard by emphasizing the sexual pleasure she gives her men. The risks to the male of an interaction with a female player are being used, being deceived into thinking she is taken with him or desires him and being blithely dismissed when she has satisfied her current whim. The female player wants to "score" but this is not her only motive. Her motives show in her general behavior and this is the key to spotting her while there is still time to thwart her. The female who can only play and then move on has not yet arrived at a point in her growth where she can enjoy closeness with a male. She is not yet able to enjoy sharing and caring and is likely to be cynical about such things or to regard them as naive or simply as nonsense. She finds her joy in sex and rushes of power. Her general lack of maturity is the first telltale sign of a player and her narcissistic ways tell you that she is not up to fair play in love and romance. She loves herself and is impressed with the power of her ways. She assumes that no man can turn her down and spends a great deal of time trying to verify her belief. The fact that there are richer ways of caring that involve giving more in order to get more does not occur to her because her self adoration gets in the way of such understanding. Narcissism is the natural, healthy way of a child and many of her ways will be childish. Unfortunately some of those childish ways are also very charming. This puts the unsuspecting male at risk of being drawn in by a charm that would better fit a much younger female. When her charm is childish and also has a selfish ring about it then chances are she is narcissistic and up to little more than playing. The player likes to keep her distance because it makes her feel safe. She may be quite aggressive sexually but that does not mean that she is up to emotional closeness. Put differently, another sign of the player is her fear of intimacy and true emotional contact with a male. This tells in how she flirts. She will send out strong seductive signals but not in a way that makes her appear easy because that would injure her pride and thwart her basic female need to see men work to win her. She sends them out in a way that creates hunger and longing for her. The telltale sign of this coming from a player is her too deep assurance, or cockiness, that she will get her way and win your interest. Healthy females do this too but they are looking for your interest in the better parts of themselves, parts that are underdeveloped or simply absent in the player. The player's confidence in her ability to use a male and then toss him away gives her unconscious assurance that she is in charge. Her fear of closeness is kept at bay by her belief that she can not only control her interactions with males but also, she can end them at will and the latter is the chief reason she is called a player. Players are usually clever, if not cunning. They usually dress well, dance well, may even sing, are good at conversation and good at creating interest in themselves. Her conversation may be about people she admires in the hope that you will see the implied comparison with herself. She may talk of relationships but her emphasis will be on the fun and excitement of getting to know someone new without mention of such things as growth. She may talk of closeness but between the lines she will be telling you that such a thing is acceptable only as long as it does not put her out. Her narcissism will make her intolerant or even angry over talk from a male about his other relationships. Her fear of true closeness will make her anxious if a male moves the conversation from excitement and fun to finding a true interest in each other. She will feel flashes of anxiety or panic upon realizing that the male she just met is interested in a real relationship. On the other hand, talk of superficial interests is very likely to draw her on because that is the level at which she functions.   Russian Women Testimonials