Difference between men and women in meeting and forming relations There are few places where the genders differ notably from one another. The issue in the FAQ may be the most important of them. Men and women are nearly opposite in where they locate their concerns. The equal but opposite nature of each gender's concern often makes for comic misunderstandings and lost moments. It can unknowingly part a man and woman who are well suited to be each other's. The difference can detour positive energy away from a relation's better direction. Men are deeply concerned about the moment of first meeting. They usually assume that if this goes well then good things will follow of themselves and otherwise they must try their luck elsewhere. Men see women as portals to a better world and a kingdom of joy. The magical realm she invites a man to is not yet open to him and in his mind there is, or must be, a key thing to do to open a way to her and become one with the wonder of her ways. In men's eyes a female guards her treasure well and must be won quickly in that first meeting or she will vanish, not to be seen again. The likely prospect of no second chance makes men anxious about their first meeting with a woman. Most of the time men are left clueless with how blithely a woman can leave the moment as if another one were a breath away. The next opportunity is usually just a breath away in pursuing her but most men take her leave as final. His hopes live in the idea of enjoying the relation with her after making his critical first connection. He gives little attention to what a relation later wants for its health and prosperity. In his eyes most of the relation is formed and in place once she reveals her wish to be with him. A man consciously sees the relation to follow as asking little more of him than courtesy. And so a man's anxious effort to first win her expects to later take easy delight in her beguiling ways. Women are also concerned about first meetings. Their larger concerns are with what a relation with him would ask of her and less with making their first meeting a connection. She wants his strength of purpose in her life and to be thrilled by his firmer and more focused ways. Few men realize how their vigor can suspend a woman's breath and steal her composure. And likewise for his greater first instinct to greet challenges with action. Her intuition moves her past these good things to images of what it would feel like to be with him from one time to the next. A woman knows that her emotions sire the relation more than a man's. Her intuition looks to read the future with him more than the present. Men take their first interaction with a woman to tell of their future with her. Presumed rewards await a man who well manages his anxious first meeting with a woman. Her eyes take the wanted future relation and try to find its promise in the first meeting. She wonders how much the relation will attract his committed energy the way it does hers. He sees the flow of her sweet energy to him and delights in the image of what that does to him. She sees her ways going to him and wants to take delight in it with the assurance that he will be there for her. Men have more assumptions and women more evaluations in their first moments together. Males take the present moment as a headline for things to come. Females release their intuitive ways to foresee a likely future with him. Men quell their fears of failure with visions of rewards to come. A woman's way keeps her more composed while sensing what the meeting reveals. Other words for this say that men feel they have read the omens already while women want to gather more signs. It matters little to a woman how much a man may need to be awakened to his feelings. To feel is a larger part of a woman's nature than a man's. It brings her pleasure to rouse this part of him to life with what she is. Nothing but a woman can give a man this joy of being and men know that women are without rival here. Her inner supply of feeling energy will g o any distance for the man she loves. It gives her more wisdom for the relation that he can find by himself alone. She takes her joy in watching him fall under the spell of her inner world and in sending it to him and to the relation. A successful relationship teaches him to invest his emotions the way she does and, when love grows, he becomes her willing understudy in these matters. Her hope is in his happy attention for what she is and in his being a mainstay in her life. Women have no greater joy in a love relation than to see that he is always finding more of her and that he is ever charmed by the ways that belong more to her than to him. It goes the other way too. The support and feeling of grounding that his nature gives her makes her want the relation to go on and on. She knows that a successful relation with him will make her feel more on purpose in her life. His presence attracts her diverse feelings and makes her feel more centered. The directed actions that come faster and more easily to him promise her support. A woman's love grows quickly for a man whose more certain ways abide by her and serve the relation. Women know that life has nothing to rival a male's ready instinct for mastery. His first and ready way draws her on and creates a longing in her that wants his longing for her ways. A woman senses better than a man how his quick instincts can best feed affection and love between them. Much of her hope for love rests in how well he offers his strength to her person and her purpose. It is nature's wish for a love relation to make him and her more like one another. Everything in a woman's psyche is in a man's and vice versa. It's the proportions that differ. The different measures of male and female in each gender create a welcome need for the other and give a relationship both purpose and power to thrive.   Russian Women and Western Men Testimonials