Process of Dating Asking for the Date There's nothing really complicated about asking for a date. Ideally, you should ask someone in person so that he or she won't have any difficulty in "placing" you, but telephoning is perfectly acceptable, too. It is best, however, to have gotten to know the person you are asking through previous conversation before suddenly springing a request for a date. Those conversations give you a chance to ascertain your compatibility with each other. If you call, mention the last conversation the two of you had together and how much you enjoyed it. You might also mention the setting and some of the topics you discussed to help jog the other's memory. Then simply say something like, "I was wondering how what do you think about meeting each other?" If the other person should decline, don't take it too personally. Perhaps they feel they don't know you well enough. If this is the case, try to become better acquainted before you ask again. If the person you call declines, simply say something like, "Well, maybe another time." and let it go at that. Don't try to change the person's mind. You will only make a nuisance of yourself. Besides, there is always another time. A general rule of thumb is to ask the same person for a date three times. If she says she is not ready yet each time, you can assume that she/he doesn't wish to meet you. Ask another person. And another. Eventually, you will find one who is right for you. If someone you like calls you for a date, and you are available for the time requested, you have it made. But what if you aren't available? Or, what if you aren't interested in the person who called? What should you do then? If you are interested but aren't available, tell the caller the reason you can't make it for the date, and request to reschedule it for another time. The best thing to do is to suggest setting another date, time and event on the spot. But what if you really aren't interested in going out with the person who calls? You want to turn the caller down gently, and yet you want to close the door to future calls as well. The best way to do this to say something like "I'm kind of involved with somebody else right now". This way, the caller doesn't see it as a rejection of him or her personally, but just that you happen to be committed to someone and unavailable to anyone else. Few people will take offense to this kind of a gentle turning-down. During the Date The Etiquette of Dating. The rules of etiquette in dating have changed somewhat in recent years. However, since the male usually still does the driving, he should open the car door for his date. This is a little nicety that contributes much to the overall atmosphere during the date. When the two arrive at their destination, he should open the door for his date again. When the evening is over, the man should see the lady to the door. It is not enough to simply drive up to her house and open the car door for her. He should walk her up to the door of her home and see that she is safely inside before he leaves. This gives the lady the feeling of being protected. Further, the man should hold open the doors of restaurants and other establishments for the lady as well as help her with her chair when she is seated, unless she shows a desire to do these things for herself. What to talk about on a date? The date traditionally occupies an entire evening and what on earth is the shy person going to talk about for all that time? Fortunately, it's easier than you may think. For one thing, a date is usually centered around some sort of activity, such as going to a dance or to the movies. This solves most of your problems for you. During a movie, you don't have to talk about anything, and afterwards, the movie itself serves as a topic of conversation. So the problem of conversation becomes relatively simple. Making your first date relatively short and centered around an activity of some sort will do a lot to calm your nerves. True, you still have to converse during the trip between home, the restaurant and the theater, as well as during the meal itself. But it is not a big problem. Much of your conversation can be based upon you and your date's initial meeting. You already know something about your date, so this makes conversation much easier; you simply base your conversation on what you already know about him or her. Ask about a project of the other person that came out during the previous conversation. Ask about a problem he or she was trying to get resolved. Discuss events in the news. Talk about the situation that brought you together. After the date After the date, it is up to you to communicate whether you enjoyed yourself and whether you would like to make arrangements to see the other person again. If neither of you has done this, you may feel free to go about meeting and making dates with other people, but you should remember that the other person is free to do the same, as well. Saying something like "I've had a wonderful time," or "You're really fun to be with" or even may be "I'would love to meet you again" is a good way to let your date know you've enjoyed yourself and that you're open to further invitations.   Russian Singles Dating Testimonials