Attract the Opposite Sex No matter what--no matter how "popular" you are (or aren't), no matter how often you go out on dates, no matter how shy you may be, you should never rule out as possible companions members of the opposite sex merely because they are very attractive. Don't intimidate yourself by thinking that their "standards" are somehow higher than those of other people. True, a single person may be more nervous in striking up a conversation with somebody he or she sees as very attractive than he or she would be otherwise. But the probability that the other person is shy themselves is just as great in this case as it is with anybody else. Some people suggest that you make your efforts toward breaking the ice with people you are NOT extremely attracted to initially so you won't be so upset by rejection, and until you can build up your confidence. The problem with this advice is that you may never work up the nerve to try to break the ice with somebody you truly are attracted to. Perhaps the best strategy, if you tend toward nervousness around the opposite sex, is to simply think of everyone you approach at first as merely a potential friend or acquaintance, NOT as a romantic conquest. A closer relationship may develop later on! The question that confronts many single people - How do you get somebody of the opposite sex to become attracted to you? Well, one thing you can do is become interested in the other person. Dale Carnegie claimed that the secret of getting a woman to fall in love with you was to simply talk to her about herself and the same psychological principal applies to men, as well! But perhaps the biggest secret of being attractive to the opposite sex is even simpler. Self confidence! The man or woman who possesses self confidence is impressive to the opposite sex for the same reasons that he or she is impressive to anyone else. People naturally think that there must be some underlying reason for all this self-confidence, and this tends to impress them as well. Since the shy tend to lack self confidence and self-assurance, or at least the appearance of same, they are, as usual, at a bit of a disadvantage here. However, while we can't all look like Mr. or Miss Universe, we can all go about improving our appearance of self-confidence. Flirting Flirting can be defined as "relaxed, light-hearted communication between a male and a female with the intent of getting to know each other better." So there is really nothing mysterious about flirting. Essentially, any behavior used by a male or a female to meet a member of the opposite sex can be defined as "flirting." So "flirting" is not some enigmatic, indefinable quantity. In fact, effective flirting consists of these five simple steps: 1. Make eye contact. Some people think that "making eye contact" means a slow, deliberate gaze from across a crowded room. I suspect that most people define this as "staring" and will be made uncomfortable by it. Eye contact is best made while walking up to somebody or talking to them. Holding the other person's gaze then will communicate that you are intensely interested in him or her. 2. Smile. This displays friendliness and self-confidence, which, as we have seen, is viewed as one of the most attractive qualities a person can have. 3. Expand the conversation by telling something of yourself. Tell a phrase or two to give the other person a chance to pick up on what you say if he or she is interested in continuing the conversation. Something like that - I have never been here before or What a cool building over there... 4. Encourage the other person to open up and talk about whatever interests him or her-careers, hobbies or interests. Give the other person your undivided attention. Show your real interst, but not boring curiousity, ask questions, but not too private, ask about the job, hobbies... Show him or her that you find them fascinating. So again, flirting is light-hearted. More smiling, laughing and humor are found here than in most other conversations. No heavy subjects here. Politics, crime and other serious topics are "out." Intensity. The person you are flirting with is the most important person in the world for the time you are together. He or she is given your complete and utmost attention for that moment. And flirting can be seen as a faster and surer way of communicating romantic intentions than "ordinary" conversation.   Russian Singles Testimonials