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1) Because they’re insecure 2) Because they know that if they tell the truth, they won’t even get the date. If you are a man 5’5” tall and 80% of short women won’t consider dating you, you'll say you’re 5’8” and hope your charm overcomes the lie. It probably won't but you hope it will. If you’re a 175 lb woman you may call yourself “firm and toned”. Yes, “a few extra pounds” or even “large” would be a bit more accurate, but you stick with your description because most guys won’t respond to the truth. When you meet, you try to ignore that disappointed look he gives you because at least you're getting a fair shot...right? And who can blame a young-at-heart 61 year old man or a youthful 44 year old woman for tweaking the truth a tad? They know that due to circumstances beyond their control they’re off a lot of people’s radars. So they fib a little – or a lot - to remain visible to other online daters out there. By the very nature of this medium – single people corresponding by computer prior to meeting – a decent percentage of them will not be fully forthcoming. It makes sense. What percentage of us are insecure? What percentage of us fail to meet the criteria on anothers’ mental checklists? What percentage of us are smart enough to know that an honest 63 year old overweight woman does not meet most men’s checklists, which is exactly why she posts that picture from six years and thirty pounds ago? But since we can’t stop liars, here are a few precautions you can take in attempts to avoid them: 1) Ask for more pictures. 2) Consider the quality of the photos. Film and clothing look different than they did ten years ago, i.e. different hairstyles; different fashions and different color palette. 3) Consider the composition of the photos. Really close up picture and no other supporting photos? Someone’s not happy with his/her body. Only see someone from the chest up? Same thing. Wearing all black, buried behind friends, or obstructed by a large fern? 4) Think logically. A guy who calls himself “ripped” but doesn’t do anything athletic is not telling you the truth. Same with the woman who claims she’s 39 but has two grandsons. If someone deceives you with a photo be a class act by not only being gracious but by not lying yourself. By telling the truth, you’ve done all that anybody can possibly do to clean up the whole online dating scene. | ||||||||||
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