How to deal with a significacnt age difference?

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How to deal with a significacnt age difference?

technoronin 52 y.o. , USA-Texas

How to deal with a significacnt age difference?

08.15.09 04:12:35 AM

Relationship & Dating

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I have recently started searching very seriously on Lucky Lovers for someone to marry and have a family with. The reality of the health risks involved for women means that I really need to be pursuing women under 35. Since I'm 51, the age difference is a significant concern to me. I don't have a lot of experience with trying to find someone overseas, so much of this is a matter of trail and error. Probably lots of errors on my part.

What I have to offer is my love and dedication along with a comfortable and secure life. I'm intelligent, witty and have a sharp sense of humor. I also have the patience for dealing with children that come with age. I've also developed the wisdom that family is the most important thing and I will not let any career ambitions get in the way.

So, I'm asking for suggestions and help, particularly from the young ladies in Eastern Europe.

Thank you.

Comments

whynotme

08.15.09

As for me I never start communication with 51 y/old guys seaching for 20 y/old girl .... too deep mental problems

FOXI-LADY

08.15.09

Hello,
sorry, I've no suggestion, but I've seen this situation with many man here in Kiev too often.
And they explained me what's make them looking for that.
now i understand that well.

You've 3 ways to choose :
1 -- find woman at the age 35-45 years, but with the child already(then the no very high risk to have one more)
2 -- still try to find somebody under 35 -- but it will take much time
3 -- impossible for you now -- but probably the most right -- think about having children earlier.

FOXI-LADY

08.15.09

whynotme -- when man is looking for a girl under 35 -- that means he wants have children
and dont want the woman risk her health too much.

whynotme

08.15.09

ask any 20 y/old girl ... does she want to have father for her kids older then she on 30 years? And it's enouth risk for future kids health as well ... I dont tell its not possible... true love never looks at dates in passports...

FOXI-LADY

08.15.09

how many people -- so much opinions..........

I dont think that looking for a younger gil means to have mental problems.
But man should never overestimate his opportunities.
Nothing looks more miserable, than the man , which explain his reason to leave the girl after relationship -- just being too old for her

technoronin

08.15.09

I'm not looking for a 20 year old, I'm looking for someone in her early 30s. I've also been quite upfront about my concerns, so I feel some of the insulting comments are rather rude. I've seen a number of successful long term relationships where there was a 20 year age gap, so I don't think it is completely unreasonable.

If I really wanted a 20 year old, I would be looking in Thailand or the Phillipines. Having the husband die off leaving a middle aged matriarch in charge of the family seems to be culturally acceptable.

Larissa Great Lady

08.15.09

Dreams comes true!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Listen to you heart!!!!!

Forforest

08.15.09

you must think of the child, too . then he have 20 yeahr old, your are 65 y old... and a good
life insurance...

colomoda

08.15.09

"I'm not looking for a 20 year old, I'm looking for someone in her early 30s"

Then why is your profile showing your desired partner:

Age from 20 to 35

IamElvis

08.15.09

Graham Stop busting balls!!

Hoopy

08.15.09

Ask if they have a nice fridge, always a sense of maturity, As for Gramah bustin Keenans ball make a difference from him busting his ass.

FOXI-LADY

08.15.09

you must think of the child, too . then he have 20 yeahr old, your are 65 y old... and a good
life insurance...

When his kid is 20 yo he is already 75 yo Hmmmm. Poor kid with dad maybe with senility But everything is possible in this life

Dont know why -- but too many man are obsessed by this idea, specially after 50 or close to it.
Dont wont to say anything bad : I respect their decision and guess the reason should be material independence and aim to share it with the child they'll have.

snow_flake

08.16.09

Why yell at Teckno because he wantsto find himself a young woman??

We all know americans have the best heath care system in world, and i guess a 51 year old well preserved american male will looks and feel like maybe 29-30 year old man from former FSU.

So i dont understand why girls under 30 in here are waiting for,he must the best offer offer u will get

snow_flake

08.16.09

I heard from here american men was the best one, even those who use viagra. One time i was told that a russian woman meeting such man in Kiev, in fact had to flee appartment because else she would be fooked to death

Rahat13

08.16.09

Does viagra influence bad on kids quality? I always thought that it just brings agregat in working state...
At least 50-year old men have high probability to make genius...

FOXI-LADY

08.16.09

With a right woman -- Viagra is unnecessary at all

Nadza

08.16.09

Excuse certainly for frankness, but I have looked at your photo and very much was surprised. To me of 49 years, but you old for me and how you wish to find the woman of 35 years? Well it is final if you very rich it is final and any is younger than this age to you will represent the big love. But it is necessary really and to see the matter critically...

kotenka

08.16.09

Dear eldly man some question for you

What your qualities do you think can attract the young woman?

Why do you think you able to convince the young women to go to far far away from her home?

What your qualities can help you to compete with young men?

P.S. I think people can lie to another people but must be frank with yourselves.

FOXI-LADY

08.16.09

Girls, it's just unpolite to give such kind of questions to the poor man.
there allways present women, which like an elder man.

if you are not attracted by that man personally -- it doesnt matter , he will be not able to find somebody else

FOXI-LADY

08.16.09

Excuse certainly for frankness, but I have looked at your photo and very much was surprised. To me of 49 years, but you old for me and how you wish to find the woman of 35 years? Well it is final if you very rich it is final and any is younger than this age to you will represent the big love. But it is necessary really and to see the matter critically...

Nadza -- are you sure you allways look at yourself critically?

kotenka

08.16.09

Girls, it's just unpolite to give such kind of questions to the poor man.
there allways present women, which like an elder man.

if you are not attracted by that man personally -- it doesnt matter , he will be not able to find somebody else

the same impolite to confuse the real life with the internet shop

in the real life do not exsist the internet shop when anybody can buy a nice young cheap litlle wife.
This is cruel Truth.

kotenka

08.16.09

there allways present women, which like an elder man.

young girls usual prefer elder men if they rich and famous

knyaginya-Olga

08.16.09

yes..i think it possible only on this cases or is it a complex...

FOXI-LADY

08.16.09

there allways present women, which like an elder man.

young girls usual prefer elder men if they rich and famous

Not allways -- main reason is if they are not stupid!!!!!!!!!

FOXI-LADY

08.16.09

Girls, it's just unpolite to give such kind of questions to the poor man.
there allways present women, which like an elder man.

if you are not attracted by that man personally -- it doesnt matter , he will be not able to find somebody else

the same impolite to confuse the real life with the internet shop
in the real life do not exsist the internet shop when anybody can buy a nice young cheap litlle wife.
This is cruel Truth.

kotenka -- believe me, I'm not living in a dreamworld.

At a time ,when I worked at hotel reception I've seen married couples with bigger age difference even,
and they didnt look unhappy.

But how many people -- so much opinions
I cant say it's a best way for everybody...............

Kontes

08.16.09

So, I wish to rise on protection of 35-year-old women.

Why all of you have decided what for the 35-year old woman 54 summer man is a good variant? I had experience of relations with the 50-year old man.... hmmmm only continuous disappointment .....

No, girls and boys, partners should be one generation, well a maximum of 10 years of a difference. Yes, exceptions to the rules happen but is rare.

alenika

08.16.09

Similar topic was discussed in Russian:
http://www.luckylovers.net/blog/blog_160_Педофилия%20на%20сйте.php
As you can see there are women with different attitude to age difference - some are supporting, others are strongly against.

I consider desire to have kids as the only valid reason to look for much younger woman - in case if man can provide his kids and protect them financially in case if they'll stay alone with foreign mother while they cannot take care of themselves.

snow_flake

08.16.09

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Read also whats written in my profile.

technoronin

08.16.09

To answer some of the criticisms-

I have the preferences set rather broadly in my profile, I probably should go back and tighten them up.

Do I expect to find someone here? Not really, but if I do not try, I will not succeed.

When I do a search with some admittedly broadly set parameters, I typically see around 1500 women who have logged on in the last 3 days. I'm only looking for one, the right one. Maybe I will find her.

Why am I looking in Eastern Europe? Many reasons. One of the most important is that the divorce rate between Americans marrying Eastern Europeans is far lower than between Americans marrying Americans. I am very serious about making about making a marriage work. It also helps that LuckyLovers seems to be a good site for searching.

Larissa Great Lady

08.17.09

We all know americans have the best heath care system in world, and i guess a 51 year old well preserved american male will looks and feel like maybe 29-30 year old man from former FSU.

first who we all know???

I work in a hotel where guests mainly foreigners and mainly after 50yo because it is a business hotel...
from my experience , I involved in all hotel operations,I saw heart attacks, what i know from house keepers all of this guests have a lot of remedies and viagra, as well artificial teeth in glasses on the bed-tables etc

Snow Flake, ask me about foreign men after 50yo I am an expert, I will tell you a lot about their health

Buy the way, a lot of men after 50 yo married with local girls about 20yo and they have children. yet..
they met in real life not on line.. life is very simple just you need work in any FSU country and you will find thousands girls of 20 who is ready marry with older foreign man because they can provide better stile of life than locals.

Technoronin, good luck for you all in your own hands, dont listen here negative comments.

Larissa Great Lady

08.17.09

Glasses let us be honest
nowadays foreign men interested to find a woman much younger than we are , thats why they apply to FSU countries...
again from my own experience

Larissa Great Lady

08.17.09

Good luck for everybody

FranzFerdinand

08.17.09

What a topic! Would a teen date her granddad? Well, may be if he's Tolstoij. Anna Karenina dated an elderly man with money. Still, it's a shock to see an American pensioner walking hand in hand at Deribasiskaya, Odessa, UA with a girl who could have been his granddaughter. This subject proofs the perception of some 'gentlemen' at LL. Guess, it's purely a midlife crisis. Well, don't bother others with your dirty mess, and get over it. (unless you are Mickey Rourke).

Once there used to be an American rule of thumb on the web, related to West-FSU dating. Date a lady half your age + 7 years. In this case it would mean: starting at 28 y.o. Consider this: at 30 y.o the change of conception is 100%, at 35 y.o. 75%, at 38 y.o. 25% and at 41 y.o. about zero.

I believe it's BS to say the US-health system is the best in the world and US-male have the health of a Russian man of 30 y.o. I've seen very healthy Russians and very unhealthy living Americans in my recent visit to Odessa...

But girls please, if you are against this. Help to

MRTZNCRC

08.18.09

First things i have to be friend with mirror

Because before want something we have to be sure about ourself(my apperance is good or not)..
If we have good apperance(woman will say this not ourself because man dont have a right for choose woman..all the time woman will choose man..unfortunatelly correct

)we will write who looks like good(if we need beauty)and will wait answer if they choosed us...
If we have medium apperance we will write who looks like medium after again we will wait answer who choosed us..
If we have bad apperance we will not write nothing..we will wait who has bad apperance they will write to us(that mean any woman will not accept im ugly and we will wait till end of our life

)